Teen Sexting - A Criminal Offence

02 Oct

This report states that both young men and women experience peer pressure to share sexual images of themselves in the phenomenon known as 'Sexting'. The study highlighted the pressure young people experienced from their peers to engage in sexting and the importance of their voice in developing ways to prevent and deal with the problem.  

Boys can be ostracised by their peers or called 'gay' if they fail to participate and show their friends images of girls on their phone or computer. Girls also feel under pressure to share images of themselves, especially if they have also viewed images of girls they know. A US survey found over 51% of girls had sent sexy images or messages as a result of pressure from a guy. 

However, this is not just harmless fun between teenagers. Some young people have been charged with child pornography (in 2007, 32 teens in Victoria, Aus were charged with child pornography offences) and placed on the sex offenders list for having explicit photos of young teens on their phone or computer. It is illegal to have a naked or semi-naked photo of someone under 18 on your phone or computer, to forward it to someone else and you can be charged even if the photo is of yourself and you agree to it being sent. Most young people are probably unaware of this and that a pressing 'send' could have devastating consequences for them and their lives. 

What may have started out as an exchange between two people can end up being shared between many at a school or even worse on the internet, with some even making their way onto porn sites. One girl's images ended up being shared around local schools and she was harassed, called names and bullied thereafter resulting in her commiting suicide. 

Young people are under pressure to fit in with the group, to do what their peers do so as they are not ostracised, excluded, teased, made fun of or laughed at etc. It can be a very powerful force that seems to make people do things against their better judgment and which if left to their own devices they may not choose to do. They may feel that it is not right for them, that they are not really comfortable with it and yet they feel forced or compelled to go along with it.

It takes a strong teenager to be able to say no to peer pressure, someone who has the self respect and self honouring to listen to what they truly feel and follow that - rather than the external pressure to conform. Perhaps the best thing we could teach young people would be to listen to what they really feel and to honour that, to be able to say no and stick with it. To know that even if that meant losing a few so called 'friends' that would not be the end of the world - for a true friend would respect your choice and not force you to do something against your will. 

There is of course more to the underlying reasons that young people engage in sexting. It is a way of seeking intimacy without actually forming an intimate relationship, without taking the risks that would potentially involve of being rejected or getting hurt. The desire to avoid being hurt or rejected can lead people into all sorts of difficulties when it comes to relationships - something perhaps many of us can relate to in one way or another.

However, imagine if we instead empowered young people to feel and know first not just that they are worth loving but that they are in fact love and to honour that by being self-loving, self-honouring, self-respecting. In that way they can feel for themselves the true harm of sexting and that it is coming from an emptiness and the seeking of love, affection and intimacy but in a way that is not true.  The more they realise, know and live that they are love, the more they will be open to forming an intimate relationship with another who is also self-respecting, self-honouring and self-loving. 

However, it is not just about teaching it but living it - not just talking the talk but walking the talk.  Thus a more powerful way for young people to learn from parents, teachers, relatives etc  is by how we treat them, how we are with them, by how we listen and respond to them, whether we truly see and 'meet' them, respect them or ignore them, dismiss them, talk down to them etc. It is for each of us to live in a self-loving, self-caring way ourselves and to offer that way of being to young people by reflection that they may choose it for themselves. 

Feel free to share your comments or insights re teen sexting.

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29 Aug

Religion: A separative force or a healing power? ..

To admit to being religious today, is tantamount to admitting you’re insane, a bit crazy or a fool, especially if you are a scientist who is considered to have some degree of intelligence and discernment. The underlying assumption is that no serious scientist, no truly intelligent human being, no rational, clear thinking person could be ‘religious.’ The word itself has become so tainted, so dirty, so blood stained that people run in the opposite direction and boldly declare, “I’m spiritual but not religious,” if they have some sense of something more, or if not, then there is the atheist who thinks God is just a figment of people’s imaginations, a made-up crutch to help them through life. I know both well, for I have at different times been both an atheist and a merchant of ‘I’m spiritual but not religious’.

I saw religion as nothing more than a separative force that maintained the ‘them and us’ arguments, that split the one humanity into separate factions, each impassioned with their beliefs that their way is the only way, that their God is the only God, and everyone else can literally and metaphorically go to hell. The wars and battles, the fights, death and destruction that have been committed as a result of religious differences fuel the belief that religion, whilst claiming to be for the good of man, has actually been responsible for some of his worst crimes. And none of the main religions are free from the curse of war – each has had their turn and many more than once – be it Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Buddhism or Hinduism.

Literally millions and millions of human beings down through the ages have suffered, been tortured, abused, threatened or murdered, all as a result of religious differences.  We have allowed mere differences in belief to be a reason or an excuse to kill, maim or judge one another. How intelligent is that?! Of course other factors can be involved, but there is no doubt that religion is and has been a key factor in man’s inhumanity to man for aeons. It perhaps seems strange then that many people would persist with religious beliefs and a religious way of life, given its extensive trail of destruction and death. Are we just blind and ignorant, dumb and stupid, unable to think for ourselves that we persist in some form or another with a pursuit of the religious?

Is there perhaps something more to religion than what we see on the surface, is there a deeper truth to what religion is and is not?

What if it’s not truly religion that is at fault, but man’s interpretation of religion that has gone awry? 

At first glance there seems little doubt that religion as it currently stands in the world today is a separative force that has for centuries and lifetimes failed to unify human beings to a common purpose for the greater good of all.

Yet is this not what religion is really about? Underneath the dogma, the doctrine, the rules and the beliefs – if we dig deep and get to the heart of religion, is it not about helping us to love our fellow man, to deal with all the ills that get in the way of that, so that we can all work together for the greater good of the whole rather than our own individualised agendas?

By committing to overcome and deal with those barriers to love we find within ourselves, in the process we achieve a greater level of self-acceptance, contentment, joy and freedom in life, where we do not get so affected by the day-to-day stresses and strains of life. If this was the case, and it is, would religion not then be seen and known to be a truly healing power – one that enabled us to overcome all manner of ills within ourselves, to understand ourselves afresh, anew, to see ourselves as who we truly are, perhaps for the first time, rather than all the misbeliefs and misperceptions we carry about ourselves? Beliefs that we are not good enough, that we are sinners, that we are not worthy, not loveable and so on, all of which stultify our growth and retard our evolution.

So what has gone wrong? Why is a truly healing form of religion not our experience of it? Why do we associate religion more with separation, wars, arguments, fights, battles, right and wrongs?

What has happened that we have lost touch with a religion that leads to the evolution of mankind, to be more loving, more caring, more considerate, more creative, more courageous, more honest, more responsible, more empowered and so the list goes on…where joy and harmony are daily experiences, not annual events?

We can study religion with our heads or minds; we can read it, think about it, analyse it, discuss it, write about it, talk about it, preach it and listen to it...but none of that will give us the experience of what it is to be religious. It will give us the knowledge, so we can sound intelligent, argue the points, the beliefs, the dogma and doctrine and so forth, but none of that will give us the feeling, the felt or lived experience of what it is to be religious. Without this felt or lived experience, all of the former can and does lead us to arguments, feuds, wars and battles and people can with their minds justify the killing of another human being or multiple human beings – just because they think or believe something different. Surely that is crazy?

But the healing power of religion has nothing to do with any of that head stuff – it would be safe to say that all of that comes not from religion, but from what religion is not.  The latter, what religion is not, has a lot to answer for; the killings, the wars, the death and destruction – but we cannot in fact blame what religion actually is for any of that. All of the education and knowledge acquisition can have us articulate much about God, so we can debate, discuss, pontificate, even preach on the subject, but it will never actually lead us to know God for ourselves – a knowing that is actually innate within us all.  This innate knowing or connection is what makes the difference between religion that is a separative force and religion that is a healing power.

For religion and being religious is about love first and foremost as well as middle and last. It begins with breathing our own breath of love for ourselves – a way of reconnecting back to our hearts, to the source of love that lives within us all.

Only through our hearts can we know what it truly is to be religious – our heads or thinking mind will never ever provide that experience, even if we think it will!

In this place, deep within our hearts we know without a shred of doubt that everyone is already love, that we are all intimately connected throughout the universe and that how we treat others impacts ourselves and vice versa. Here, everyone is known to be equal, no one higher and no one lower, and all judgments are known to be false and futile. To be religious in this way means to live in a way whereby this connection to the love within ourselves infuses and perfuses our every way, our movements, our words, our thoughts and our deeds. It has a particular quality that can be felt and known – there is no need to impress, convince, convert or persuade.

It is to look into someone’s eyes and know who they are, even if they do not know themselves and no matter what behaviour they present to you, it is to hold them as more than that. It is to take a walk in nature and feel the deep interconnectivity of life and the harmony of nature, to see the particles of life dancing in an infinite order whilst appearing to be disordered. It is relinquishing and surrendering control of the Universe, whilst being all that we are in every moment. It is to know that despite the separative force of what religion is not, there is a truth and a true healing power in what religion is – a power that naturally unifies, that brings mankind together to work for the greater good of the whole, and where the self is known to be both nothing and everything at the same time. In this way, life becomes an ever unfolding and enriching process as we evolve ever more deeply to return to who we truly are.

So the difference between the separative force and the true healing power of religion, comes back to us and to what degree we are living in harmony or discord with ourselves, whether we are driven by our heads and our beliefs, or living from and have surrendered to the love that is ever-present in our hearts. This reconnection with the love within our own hearts is true religion, the relationship with ourselves and God, a relationship that then feeds all other relationships – whether that be with people, food, work, exercise or entertainment – there is nothing that cannot be touched and transformed by the living way of love, by the true healing power of religion. 


This is the most beautiful blog I have ever read on religion. From what you share, it is clearly felt both, what religion truly is, and what religion is not. It offers everyone the opportunity to assess which one they have chosen, and confirms that we all know true religion within (even if we have be searching outside and settled for what is not). Thank you

its true as you clearly state

its true as you clearly state that religion has become a word that people are not keen to use especially about themselves, so much of it has been tainted and manipulated to suit other agendas over the years and centuries. I am so glad to be regaining enormous respect for the word and how it applies to my life now is truly sacred.

Wow Eunice Minford, a

Wow Eunice Minford, a powerful and superb expression for what it means to be religious. Count me in to the religion that has love as its front back and centre!! Your words here are disarming of the understandable beliefs that most have about being religious.

I love what you have written

I love what you have written here Eunice, put so beautifully the connection between religion, God and our own responsibility to living a joyful life - it is so simple really.
21 Jul

Dr: Do two little letters define you? ..

Have you ever stopped to consider who you are or what defines you?

Is your self-worth or self-esteem wrapped up in those two little letters ‘Dr’?

How would you feel if they were removed?

Would you know who you are without them?

As medical students we work hard, study long hours, sit tons of exams and tests, to ultimately prove we have what it takes – that we are intelligent enough, to be a doctor. Parents burst with pride on graduation day – watching what was once their little Jonny or Jane running round in nappies, now reach the dizzy heights of intellectual prowess required to be a doctor. We feel good about ourselves, our many years of hard work paying off as finally we get the stamp that says ‘you are a doctor.’ Credit cards and cheque books are changed to include those two little letters ‘Dr’ that the world too may know who they are transacting with. We introduce ourselves as ‘Dr …..’ (insert surname) to patients, and we are there to answer the call should one go out on an aeroplane: ‘Is there a doctor on board?’. We relish the new-found status those two little letters ‘Dr’ seem to bring – instant respect and authority, where people might actually listen to us and value our opinion.

We have gone from being a nobody student, to a somebody Dr.

A turbo charge boost to our self-esteem – that for some can lead to an air of superiority and arrogance, feeling better than and looking down on others. Those two little letters can cover up a host of insecurities and vulnerabilities – feelings of not being good enough or even enough, not being perfect, are pushed to the side because we have the title that tells the world we are ok, we are enough, we are intelligent – so please do not question my authority. Yet hidden deep underneath the superiority and arrogance is the insecure little boy or girl who feels a fraud, feels like they will never be enough and lives in fear of being found out. Feelings they hide from themselves as they puff their chest out, blow their top and try to convince the world they are more than they feel they are. All hot air and steam, an illusion that can evaporate with a pin prick of truth.

For what we do is not who we are!

Yet many doctors associate what they do with who they are. In other words, they consider their job to define them, that those two little letters ‘Dr’ – are them.

To define ourselves by what we do is a disaster waiting to happen – it is a fragile platform to stand upon and one that can easily crack and crumble to ruin, leaving the person inside feeling lost, empty, insecure, uncertain, anxious and deeply unsure of who they are.

Who we are is so much more than what we do. We are human beings before we are doctors, human beings who care, love, laugh, have fun, relationships and enjoy people. None of these things need to cease when we become doctors. We don’t need to put on our serious face or professional mantle, we just need to be who we are, be ourselves, be natural and let the love in our hearts shine through all that we do.

When we stand on the rock of knowing who we are as human beings first and foremost, then we have no need to impress, be superior, look down upon others, be aloof and keep our distance. We know and can feel there is a place of greatness within us and within every human being, even if we are not all living that greatness. Just knowing it is there, to be tapped into and lived from as we choose to, can make all the difference. We know we are no longer dependent on two small letters ‘Dr’ for our sense of self and worth – for who we are already is so much grander than any amount of letters can bring, be they before or after our name.

And so whilst it can certainly be challenging if we lose our job, are made redundant, are suspended, or just retire, these challenges may be easier to deal with if we know that greatness is still there within, untouched and unaffected by any of that, for what we do is not who we are.

And on the other side of that coin, bringing that greatness within to all that we do can transform our lives, our work and relationships. There is a different but grander sense of purpose, a spring of joy in our step and a sparkle in our eyes when we know that what we bring does not solely depend on what we know, but who we are. We underestimate the healing power we bring when we are just ourselves, being human, being present, being the natural loving and caring beings that we are with grace and greatness, where the love in our hearts can shine through our eyes, our gentle touch or tender words.

So by all means embrace the hard earned title of ‘Dr’ and the responsibility it brings, but let us not mis-use it as I used to do to have power over others, to feel superior, or better than, or to bolster a fragile sense of self. Know first and foremost that we are much more than what can be defined by two little letters or any amount of degrees – and when we bring that to the fore we know nobody is nobody and everybody is somebody – somebody great, wise and beautiful, just like us.  


This blog was first published on KevinMD. 

DR, do two little words define you?

'And so whilst it can certainly be challenging if we lose our job, are made redundant, are suspended, or just retire, these challenges may be easier to deal with if we know that greatness is still there within, untouched and unaffected by any of that, for what we do is not who we are' This was my message when supporting hundred of people facing redundancy through career transition workshops, 'Your security is not the job, it's you' 'Connect to who you are and carry that quality where-ever you go'.

No Job defines us

This piece - Breath of Fresh Air. And it doesn't really only apply to Drs - it is for us all who identify with what we do and in particular many amongst us with those long, prominent, desirable and 'impressive' titles... When we lose ourselves in the titles a divide is created and we miss opportunities to see and meet as you say: "somebody great, wise and beautiful"

Great post Eunice. When I was

Great post Eunice. When I was nursing I used to dread the new intake of doctors on the wards in February and August as arrogance reigned supreme, especially with the newly qualified doctors. At the time I never considered that it was because they were terrified of the responsibility they now had. I would read it differently today. The ward sister would often know more than the new house men and women, until they eased themselves in, and were a great support, if the newbies would let her. ( only female sisters back then! )

It's beautiful Eunice how you

It's beautiful Eunice how you bring it back to everybody, nobody and somebody. For in the end isn't this why we get stuck on job titles, salaries and the car that we drive? we've just forgotten all about our body. And no not in a self obsessed superficial way but a feeling sensory way. The irony is our body brings more wisdom when we listen than any Ph.D.
03 Jul

E=mc2: Everything is Energy - why do we continue to ignore the energetic truth? ..

E=mc2 is the most famous equation in the world – yet the world chooses to remain woefully and wilfully ignorant of the meaning and implications of Einstein’s discovery in everyday life. Why is this?

Before addressing that question let us first unpack E=mc2 in order to understand what it is actually saying.

Interestingly, when Einstein first published his paper in 1905 presenting the relationship between mass and energy, he did so using the equation L=mv2, where L represented the ‘living’ energy, m is mass and v is velocity. E=mc2 came into being in 1912, using E for energy and c as the universally recognised symbol for the speed of light. The c comes from celeritas meaning ‘swiftness’ in Latin. The speed of light is known to be a constant irrespective of other conditions, like the speed we move towards or away from the source of it. The speed of light from car headlights for example, is unaffected by the speed of the car.

We all know what light is – or at least we think we do! Light itself is a form of energy called electromagnetic radiation that can exist as particles or waves of energy. A photon is a packet of energy that is the quantum (or smallest) particle of light. Light is fundamental to our survival – our bones and cells need it to thrive, humans deprived of it become depressed, plants and crops need it to grow and supply our food and all the green plants and trees use it to synthesize nutrients from carbon dioxide and water, producing the oxygen we breathe as a byproduct – a very useful byproduct! Since ancient times people revered and even worshipped the sun as a source of light – recognising that our very survival depends upon its presence.

The fact that c is a constant, and itself is a form of energy, leaves us looking at the E=m part of the equation and the relationship between energy and mass. This basically says that mass is the direct measure of the energy contained in a body. E=mc2 is also known as the energy-mass equivalence equation, whereby energy and matter or mass are interchangeable. Energy can be converted into mass and mass can be converted into energy – they are equivalent.

But there is more to it. We tend to think of mass or matter as solid, something we can see, touch and hold and that it is very different to energy, which appears invisible and seemingly more elusive to our human senses. But perhaps one of the greatest illusions that still persists today in the world is this idea that mass or matter is solid – when it is far from it. Even something as solid as a frying pan is ultimately a mass of vibrating energy. As we delve into the pan, we find the iron atom, then the nucleus and ultimately we have particles call quarks which make up the protons and neutrons in the iron nucleus and between all the particles is space. However, the mass of the quarks is not enough to count for the heaviness of the pan – so where does that extra mass come from?1

Well, energy does not just exist in matter – it is also present in what we call empty space – except that space is not empty. It is full of energy – that manifests as ‘virtual’ particles, which rapidly appear and disappear, and it is these particles that give the frying pan its mass.1 Mass is basically just one way of carrying energy. What we think of as matter, be it trees, buildings, clothes, food, animals, plants and our own physical bodies are all made up of particles that at their root have no independent mass!

Therefore, in E=mc2 we have E for energy, c for light which is also energy and m for mass which is also just a way of carrying energy and is ultimately not solid but a mass of vibrating particles and space, all of which are energy. In essence, this equation is therefore simply saying ‘everything is energy’.

Energy is the fundamental reality of the world we live in. There is no such thing as solid matter – it is a complete illusion to think there is.

Einstein himself said:

 “Concerning matter, we have been all wrong. What we have called matter is energy, whose vibration has been so lowered as to be perceptible to the senses. There is no matter.” 

Matter is just energy in a more dense form or slower vibration and matter is just another form of the same fundamental nature of all of life – energy.

The physicist David Bohm stated it thus: 

“Ultimately, the entire universe (with all its particles, including those constituting human beings, their laboratories, observing instruments, etc.) has to be understood as a single undivided whole, in which analysis into separately and independently existent parts has no fundamental status.” 2

So why, over 100 years after E=mc2 was formulated, are we still ignoring the implications of this equation?

Are we just stupid and failing to understand physics – or is there more to it?

Einstein himself recognised that people did not understand this equation or its ramifications:

It followed from the special theory of relativity that mass and energy are both but different manifestations of the same thing — a somewhat unfamiliar conception for the average mind.” 

However, since 1999 Serge Benhayon has been presenting in great detail the full implications and ramifications of the understanding that everything is energy.3-5 He has articulated a one-unified understanding that combines science, religion and philosophy based on the universal truth that everything is energy and how that applies to our lives and our way of living. The implications that he has presented are too many to enumerate in this one blog but, for example, understanding that everything is energy means that: 

1)     Ultimately everything is interconnected – nothing is truly separate or isolated within the whole universe.

2)     Everything that happens does so because there is an energy making it happen – there is nothing random, by chance or accident.

3)     We are energetic beings in communion with the universe – energy is passing through us 24/7 without fail and rather than being elusive or invisible to our senses we have a sixth sense that is constantly feeling everything.

4)     Every choice has a consequence – our bodies are affected by the way we live, constantly so.

5)     Death cannot be the end for energy cannot be destroyed – we change from form to formlessness.

6)     True freedom is being aware of the quality of energy we are choosing to live from – for it is this which gives us the quality of our thoughts, our movements, our behaviours and choices.

So why do we ignore, deny, resist, fight and reject these understandings and fail to apply them in our daily lives? Not only that, but why do some even ridicule, denigrate, abuse and attack those who explain or expand upon them? 

How long will it take for us to wake up and realise not just who we are but what we are a part of?

Could it be that we avoid the truth of these understandings at all costs as they bring a level of responsibility to our lives that most are not ready or willing to accept?

Do we avoid these understandings, as to put them into practice would rock our comfort boats just a bit too much?  For example, what if we could no longer blame others for the state of our life – realising instead that we are intrinsically connected with everything that happens to us in one way or another?

We like to think we can live any way we like, that we can ‘get away with’ being reckless and irresponsible, that we can eat whatever and how ever much we want, that we can drink lots of alcohol, take drugs, do porn, fight, be corrupt, be greedy, be emotional – basically do whatever we want and that we are accountable to no-one. If we get sick we go to the doctor to get fixed and we tend to blame everything outside of looking at our own choices. But energetically this just does not wash. Everything we do affects everything – especially our own bodies!  

At first, this can seem a bit of an ouch – that I am responsible for the condition of my life and what happens in it. Yet when it is fully understood – we see that these understandings are in fact the key to true empowerment and freedom. We are no longer victims of life happening to us, but we can come to a deeper understanding and realise we have the power within us to change, transform and truly heal and live a quality of life way beyond that which we ever imagined was possible. We can put a true end to the suffering we feel has been inflicted upon us.

The thing is, we don’t have to take anyone’s word for it – for the great thing about the energetic truth is that when it is lived and applied in our lives it makes a true difference – we feel it in our own bodies and so we know the truth of it for ourselves. Our experiences and our bodies reveal and confirm the energetic truth without needing to rely on any outer source.

So let us not resist, deny and ignore these understandings any longer, for to do so is to perpetuate the separation and suffering in the world. In contrast, incorporating them into the world and our lives has the potential to transform EVERYTHING and effect a huge amount of healing not just within ourselves, but in our communities, across nations and the world at large. No sphere of human life would be untouched if we truly aligned to, applied and lived the energetic truth.

 Understanding the energetic truth means we know that:

  1. We are a one equal humanity – in truth undivided by nationality, culture, religion, borders, professions, roles or any outer identifier of any kind. How false is it then to perpetuate these illusionary barriers? 
  2. We are responsible for the quality of our health and our lives. No longer can we say it ‘just happened’, it was an ‘accident’, or ‘out of the blue’. Before any illness and disease there is an energy bringing it into form – and by changing the quality of our choices we can potentially prevent or allay such ill conditions.
  3. We are not limited to flesh and bone but are multi-dimensional energetic beings. We are beings of light in constant reception of packets of energy that then feed the choices we make. What if we are living so much less than who we truly are by avoiding the energetic facts of life? 


The list of ways that life can be beneficially transformed by applying the energetic truth are endless and this is only scratching the surface – but given the current dire state of humanity, with illness and disease, corruption, addiction, abuse, crime, violence, relationship difficulties and a host of other ills, it is essential we keep scratching!

And, just for fun - have you ever considered the energy potential in your own body?

Well if the maths of E=mc2 is applied to an 86kg man, it works out that the potential energy is about 7.8 septillion joules of energy which is roughly equivalent to 1.86 million kilotons of TNT worth of energy. To put that in perspective, the bomb that destroyed Nagaski in Japan was 21 kilotons of explosives. So one human being can have more than 88,000 times explosive energy than a bomb that destroyed an entire city!6   Now the 100% conversion of mass to energy used here is unrealistic, but nonetheless, fun to consider our potential…

And imagine all of that energy used not for explosives but for the Love of all mankind?

Now that is true power.

So yes we are far more powerful than we know – we are messengers and carriers of energy and the question is: what energy are we choosing to be a messenger of – love or that which is not love? 

“Everything is energy and everything is because of energy” (Serge Benhayon, early 1999) is the key to understanding all of life and is a truth that if we fail to see, acknowledge and more importantly live, then life will sooner or later bring us to a point where we can’t but see the truth contained therein.

The fact of all these understandings has been clearly presented by Serge Benhayon.3-5 It can certainly help to have a guiding hand and voice from someone who is already walking the talk – who knows, lives and breathes life energetically and can impart the wisdom of the ages. Those, including myself, that have chosen to listen to him and apply these understandings in our daily lives have significantly benefitted from doing so and have come to know the truth of the teachings through our own experiences and bodies. 

The energetic truth is freely available to all and it has been for aeons as it is innate to who we are – yet we have deliberately fought, resisted and denied that which is our true salvation. 

The question arises: How many more hundreds or even thousands of years are we going to perpetuate our suffering by playing the game of ignorance and pretending we do not know what we cannot avoid knowing?



1)     The Big Questions. Physics. Michael Brooks. Editor Simon Blackburn. Quercus.

2)     Bohm, D. (1983) Wholeness and the Implicate Order. London: Ark Paperback

3)     Benhayon S. The Way It Is. A Treatise on Energetic Truth 2nd Ed.  Goonellabah: UniMed Publishing, 2009. http://www.unimedliving.com/books-ebooks/unimed-publishing-books/the-way-it-is/treatise-on-energetic-truth.html

4)     Benhayon S. An Open Letter to Humanity. Goonellabah: UniMed Publishing, 2013. http://www.unimedliving.com/books-ebooks/unimed-publishing-books/an-open-letter-to-humanity

5)     Benhayon S. Time, Space and All of Us. Book 1 – Time. Goonellabah: UniMed Publishing, 2015. http://www.unimedliving.com/books-ebooks/unimed-publishing-books/time-space-and-all-of-us/time-space-and-all-of-us-book1-time.html

6)     Energy in a human person. Joshua Carroll. Sept 2014 http://www.universetoday.com/114617/a-fun-way-of-understanding-emc2/

Accessed 21.06.16

Brilliantly put together,

Brilliantly put together, Eunice. It does beg the big questions to understand that all is energy and interconnected. I love knowing that originally Einstein used L for living energy instead of E, too!! And the power within us all is truly astronomical - so why have we chosen to be so much less? Is it as simple as a choice to be aware of this interconnectivity and live accordingly? I can't help but feel that once we truly let ourselves feel this, we could no longer contemplate harm as it would clearly only harm ourselves. I've also learned recently from letters recently released from Einstein's estate that he had understood this all encompassing energy field we live in to be Love....which he said the world of science was not yet ready to hear. But thanks to Serge Benhayon, the message is yet again (as it has in so many times before) coming through clear as day.

Brilliantly unpacked Eunice -

Brilliantly unpacked Eunice - "And imagine all of that energy used not for explosives but for the Love of all mankind?" wowee with 7 billion plus of us loving and living this way the ripples throughout the universe would be mind boggling. We need to stop and simply appreciate how just one of us choosing to express this way, as you do here, is the beginning of things becoming clear.

Great read Eunice!We have

Great read Eunice! We have not been shown and we have not connected with the truth about energy and how it precipitates EVERYTHING! I am learning more and more about how we are manipulated to focus on external things in life that reward materialism or achievement and not on the body or vehicle that makes these possible and the energy associated with them. Appreciating the body is the most obvious example of this. If we understood and appreciated that we are a walking miraculous organic factory performing the most complex processes and exchanges to keep the body balanced, (all without our awareness), how then could we ignore our relationship with the body? Your blog brings us face to face with the energetic truth of who we are. More please and thank you!
24 Apr

Abortion - how could you be so stupid? ..

“How could you be so stupid?”

“You are so stupid”

“You’re supposed to know better”

“You’re a doctor for f!*#s sake”

“You’re supposed to be intelligent”

“You’re not supposed to make mistakes”

“You stupid b#*!h”

“Why did you…?”

“Why didn’t you…?”

“This is your worst nightmare come true…”

“This isn’t part of the plan”

“What are you going to do?”

This was part of the internal dialogue that followed the light blue lines on the home test kit confirming what was indeed (one of) my worst nightmares come true – I was pregnant – an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy.

Growing up in N. Ireland had instilled in me a deep fear of becoming pregnant if I wasn’t married – it was, after all, the deepest shame a girl could bring upon her family. I had heard as a teenager how people spoke of young girls who ended up in such a predicament – that they were loose, sluts, slags, tarts, morally bankrupt, weak, silly girls, shameful – you get the picture. There was absolutely nothing positive about that scenario.

But I was no longer a teenager – I was in my thirties, successful in a highly professional job and had an excellent track record that affirmed a decent level of intelligence. Times had moved on – single mothers were a commonplace occurrence – but even so, the hangover of religious and cultural beliefs still coursed through my veins, even though I was not religious in any way at that time, nor was I living in N. Ireland. But the damage had been done. The seeds had been well and truly planted and embedded.

Shame on you.


You’re a disappointment.


How could you?


The collective cultural and religious voice echoed…


You see, in my head, I was not the ‘sort of person’ who had an unplanned pregnancy, who had a child out of wedlock – I wasn’t the silly irresponsible teenage girl… yet now I was the sort of person who had an unplanned pregnancy, as I was pregnant! There was no denying that. My body had told me even before the little blue lines confirmed it.

“What are you going to do?”

I saw two paths ahead of me, to continue with the pregnancy and have the child, or have an abortion…and it was very clear that there was only one option for ME, for who I was, given my history, my experiences, my beliefs, the influencing factors on my life that had led me to be the person I was at that time – and that was to have an abortion.  I was living in England, so gaining access to abortion was not the problem that it is for women in N. Ireland today. There were multiple factors that contributed to that decision and although it was definitely a true choice for me, it was not taken lightly. The circumstances around it were challenging for a variety of reasons; the relationship I was in broke up at the same time and I had the abortion one week before my final surgical exams; it was a stressful, messy and difficult time. 

But then unplanned pregnancies and abortions are part of the messiness of life. No young girl grows up thinking, “one day I want to have an abortion.” It’s not something we aspire to, dream of, desire or plan for – we don’t think “I’ll get pregnant in January so I can have my abortion in February or March”. It’s not part of anyone’s five-year plan.

In an ideal world there would be no need for abortions – but we do not live in and we will never live in an ideal world – so for the foreseeable future, abortion is, has been and will be part of life. Resisting and fighting this fact does not help – it is against the flow of life, the ‘what is’ of life – and is not actually pro-life.

So whether people agree with them or not, abortions are a fact of life and they are not going to go away. Whilst we might like to see the need for them diminish, that can be addressed in other ways, whilst simultaneously fully supporting those who choose them. That is the humane approach. We know banning them or making them illegal does not stop them happening – it just heightens the stress and suffering and makes what can already be a challenging situation, even more difficult.  For some women it can result in death or severe disease from complications of backstreet abortions, or as we have seen recently in N. Ireland, result in women being convicted of a ‘crime,’ that is not a crime in other parts of the world.

Indeed, the United Nations has stated that criminalization of health services that are only for women, including abortion, is discrimination against women.

I would add, it is not only discrimination against women, it is an abuse of women. It is abusive to force a woman to have a child against her will – which in effect is what criminalizing abortion is intended to do. It is an abuse of women to deny them the fundamental right to have agency over their own body and life and the right to choose if and/or when they have a family. Also just to be super-clear, for people who are anti-abortion – you don’t have to have one, you can choose to or not, no-one would force an abortion on you the way that some people and the law would currently force women to have children they do not want. Decriminalization does not mean you have to have it or do it; it just gives you and every woman a choice. 

Having an abortion can be the responsible and loving choice for both the woman and the unborn when the cycle of life is fully understood – it is not loving to bring a child into the world that is not wanted, where for whatever reason or reasons, the woman feels she does not have the resources to care for the child. Having a child, or children, is a big responsibility – one that perhaps people do not take seriously enough.

All too often we try to box and pigeon hole people into stereotypes – as I did myself, but the truth is, the ‘sort of person’ who has an unplanned pregnancy and an abortion as a way of taking responsibility for that situation, is a woman in her reproductive years and who has sex. End of. It’s as simple as that. Thereafter the identities and stories are as varied as women on the planet; they span the ages from teens to forties, from unemployed to highly professional (including doctors), from poor to rich, from working class to aristocracy, from those who used contraception to those who didn’t, from single to married, from childless to those with children, from one night stands to long term relationships, from atheist to deeply religious; basically from all nations and all walks of life. They are our friends, our sisters, our cousins, our daughters, our nieces, our aunts and mothers – they are all women and they are all, in one way or another, our sisters. 

But this sisterhood is in trouble – indeed the brotherhood of humanity is in trouble and this is exemplified in what is called the abortion debate. On one side we have those who identify as ‘pro-life’ and on the other those who identify as ‘pro-choice’ and ne’er the twain shall meet. There just seems to be perpetual arguing, fighting, abusing and condemning each other and making no progress on the subject in the process.

I find it interesting to consider how this debate would be if men were the ones to get pregnant and have children – how many of them would allow themselves to be forced to have a child they did not want? I have little doubt the law would have been changed years ago or indeed would never have been made in the first place. This isn’t just about abortion, but the empowerment of women and true equality.

‘Pro-life’ in this context is to me a misnomer. I consider myself to be very much pro-life: I fully appreciate and am aware of the sacredness and preciousness of life, I work every day to save lives, prolong lives, preserve lives and to care for lives – so I am very much ‘pro-life’. And I am also pro-choice and respect the right of every woman to make the reproductive choices that are true for her and to have agency over her own body and life. To me those who identify as ‘pro-life’ in the abortion debate are more accurately described as having views that are anti-women, anti-abortion and anti-choice (anti-w-a-c). 

For if we do not truly care for the walking, talking, fully living human being (woman) that is in front of us, then we cannot truly care for her unborn, but are just bringing an ideal and a belief of how we think life should be, rather than how it actually is. If we are not pro the life of the woman, then we cannot be truly pro the life of the unborn. 

That said, I also know that putting people into camps or categories creates ‘us and them,’ before the talking even starts. It is a polarized debate, where emotions run high, each believing with passion and conviction that they are right and the other is wrong.

How can we advance this conversation in a mature and responsible way? 

What if some of the current views are based on an understanding of life that is simply not true?

What if there is a way to understand life that allows the whole to be understood, not just a fragment or a linear snap shot of time?

What if these understandings can expand our understanding of abortion in a way that is healing and caring for all?

How can we get to the field beyond right and wrong – where we deal with what is true, what actually occurs in the world of energy that we live in?

So what is true?

  • Unplanned pregnancy is a reality of life
  • Banning or making abortion illegal does not stop it – so surely the true and loving response is to ensure it is performed in a safe and supportive environment
  • A woman is an autonomous human being who has the right to self-determine, to have agency over her own body and reproductive choices
  • A woman is responsible for her life, her choices and their consequences
  • No-one has the absolute right to impose upon another adult human being how to live his or her life
  • A foetus is dependent upon the life of the woman for its life, until such time as it is viable independent of her – until that time it therefore does not have independent rights that supersede the rights of the woman upon whom its life depends.
  • Human beings are multi-dimensional beings with physical and non-physical or spiritual dimensions
  • It takes three to make a baby – a sperm, an egg, and an incarnating spirit
  • The body is a vehicle for the spirit and soul
  • Birth and death are transitions from formless to form and form to formless – the spirit is there before birth and continues after death – so who we are as spiritual beings cannot be destroyed or killed. Death is a passing over, as who we truly are never dies
  • After abortion, the physical flesh is no more, but the incarnating spirit will incarnate again, either to the same or a different woman – so the cycle of life continues
  • Each of us has lived many lifetimes as men and women on the journey of life – a journey that is much bigger, much grander than the duration of any one physical incarnation, whether that is 8 weeks or 80 years
  • We are on a journey of return back to the love we separated from, a journey of the spirit returning to the soul, which calls us to choose to live with, from and in love in our daily ways of living and relating
  • The love that we are is not harmed, destroyed, killed or tainted by anything


If this is accepted as being true (as it is energetically true), it is clear that there is no need for any guilt or shame over abortion. Indeed in my experience, the guilt and shame comes not from having the abortion, providing the choice has been true, but comes from us taking on imposed religious beliefs that are not true. Beliefs that we are bad, sinners, evil, that we have destroyed life, that we only have one life, that God will punish us or that we will go to hell (a place that does not actually exist). Once we let these and other similar beliefs go, see them for the falsities that they are and come to know the truth of who we are and live from there – then we are free.

It seems to me that we have lost touch with our common humanity – the fact that there is no ‘us and them’ – only us.  No matter what we believe, no matter what we hold to be true, we are all human, we are all imperfect, we are all living our lives to the best of our ability given who we are, our upbringing, education, culture, religion and all our experiences. This should give us the grace and humility to know we have not walked in another’s shoes, we have not lived another’s life – so who are we to judge them or to impose our ways onto them?  We have replaced a true Christian response of acceptance, understanding, non-judgment, love and compassion with condemnation, judgment, denigration and a dehumanizing response that is far removed from the love of the Christ.

We have also lost touch with our innate divinity – we hold beliefs about ourselves that are not true, perpetuated by false religious teachings and so we hold ourselves as considerably less than the true Sons of God that we are, not appreciating the true glory, beauty and majesty of who we truly are. When we know the love of God by knowing who we are, we know that irrespective of the choices we make, we are always and forever held in the utmost love and never are we not.  

By reconnecting with our common humanity and our innate divinity, we can come to see beyond right and wrong, and instead speak up for what is true.

Do we really want to be part of a society that seeks to potentially imprison 1000-2000 women/year, removing them from their families (possibly their other children) and jobs, because they exercised their fundamental human right to self-determination, to have agency over their own body and to responsibly choose if and or when to have a family?

Do we really want to be part of a society that forces women to have children against their will and with absolutely no consideration for them or their circumstances?

Do we really want to be part of a society that is discriminating against and abusing women by failing to decriminalize abortion in this country and to have it safely and readily available for those who choose it

Patriarchal supremacy and religious fundamentalism are a toxic combination that at its heart is deeply anti-women and far, far removed from the love of God and the Christ. The way of the Christ, is the way of love, acceptance, understanding, non-judgment, equality and compassion – let those qualities be our chosen way.

Even though I have deeply healed on a personal level, I have been guilty of being a bystander, of staying silent and not telling my story or giving voice to my views on this subject, partly out of fear of the backlash, the judgment and whatever else might follow. But, knowing what I know, I can no longer stand by, stay silent and watch from the sidelines and allow this abuse and discrimination to go unchallenged.

If change is to occur then we, all who disagree with the current criminalization of abortion, must begin to stand up and speak up, to say that the current situation is unacceptable and untenable. We need to take whatever means possible, whether that is through local debate, government procedures, legal routes, the UK government, the European Courts, or the United Nations in order to bring an end to this blatant discrimination and abuse of women.

Watch Eunice's interview on the BBC. 

Hi John O Connell ,from Kerry

Hi John O Connell ,from Kerry , Ireland . A friend told me about this blog, that I should read it and I am so thankful for being able to read it and see the interview of Eunice . To read the truth about life for women who are punished for being a woman. It's so terrible that at this time in history it is a crime to be a woman, unless you do as you are told by societies ideals and beliefs about conception. It is humorous for me to think, if a man could become pregnant would we have this situation, I think not, Thank you again Eunice


Thanks Fiona for bringing in this dimension - of course forcing women to have abortions against their will is not on. In this instance it is not the abortion that is the issue but the impostion by others forcing women to have an abortion they do not want (assuming this is the case as there may be some that do actually want it in these circumstances). It is the male domination of women and the disempowerment of women that are at play here - forcing another to act against their will whether it is to have an abortion or any other act/behaviour etc is not on. The more women speak up and claim what is true for them and do not subjugate themselves to men for whatever reason then the more women will be free from such shackles - how we are in our relationships every day is part of this, not just the serious acts as you have described.  

reply re abortion

Dear Eunice and Carmin, but in very many cases it is not the woman's or girl's choice. Trafficked women are taken to abortion facilities again and again ( just google it) and are told by the traffickers that their families in their countries will suffer if they confide in facility staff. Plenty of girls and women are forced into abortion by partners and parents and these girls and women have no information about alternatives. The choice is not theirs in these cases. And it is rare for facility staff to report suspicions that a girl or woman is being coerced into abortion/ has been raped by a family member or trafficker/ is forced to work as a prostitute/ is under-age.

Abortion in perspective.

Eunice, this blog touches the heart of what it is to be human and divine. The topic of abortion is brought into context beautifully in this piece and I'd say it is one of the most eloquent and 'real' essays about our humanity that I have ever read. Thank you on behalf of all our sisters and brothers!

I would be in jail for being raped and falling pregnant

I would be in jail for being raped and falling pregnant under the current NI laws, to even think of being placed under that sort of pressure whilst dealing with what had happened is actually something I can't comprehend. The fact I was in a country that made you wait until I was 3months pregnant before termination could occur was bad enough. Even under the circumstances I considered all the options available to me, I considered every one over and over again for every moment of the day, it was in everything I did - what was best for both of us?. In the end I came to a spiritual understanding of what had occurred and told the foetus this was not the right time for either of us and chose the termination. I do not regret, never have and was in my right mind the whole time I went through the process of deciding what to do. To have laws that inhibit this process and condemn it via a God that is subjective to particular peoples belief systems is indicative of mental ill health, not a woman wanting to terminate an unplanned foetus.


Thank you for this frank and honest story. I have never had an abortion, have no children and am currently lying in bed 7 weeks pregnant, desperately hoping not to miscarry this pregnancy like I have so many previous ones. This pregnancy is my choice, as should ones desire not to have a child. Despite ten year struggle to have a family I 100% support a woman's right to choose a termination. As you say, a change to the law does not impact anyone other than the pregnant woman , therefore I cannot understand why the NI assembly continues to deny NI women a basic human right. Press coverage of this issue suggests that the assembly are supporting popular views, this is blatantly untrue as the consultation results show that there is support for a change in the law. I am unlikely to avail of a new law but I sincerely hope that it happens soon so that no woman is forced to travel or buy potentially dangerous drugs. Your story will help countless women, it is sad that they have to get support from a blog rather than their government.

Thank you so much for your

Thank you so much for your bravery in telling your story and for your compassion and vulnerability which we all can connect with .

Thank you Eunice so very much

Thank you Eunice so very much for sharing your story and speaking up against the criminalization of abortion. I have never had an abortion but I know plenty of women who have had and to consider that they could be classified as criminals is absolutely appalling. Women have a right to governance over their own bodies. You have introduced love and truth into this discussion on abortion and many women the world over will be very thankful for that.

It seems ridiculous that in

It seems ridiculous that in 2016 there is still a debate on whether women have the capacity to make such a decision for themselves. Because of the criminalisation and social judgement, those women who actually have experienced abortion are not likely to talk about it publicly, so those who stand in judgement have a louder voice. I am in awe of your willingness to share your story so openly and with such honesty - you are a voice for so many women who may not have the strength to do so.

Thank you Eunice, for the

Thank you Eunice, for the clarity and truth so beautifully presented here. I too had an abortion about 35years ago and the treatment I received was appalling and this further contributed to my guilt. Since then I feel I have cleared most of this but I know there are still some remnants of guilt there. What you have shared here is very healing for me in that I know that I am still innately divine and that this choice I made many years ago does not negatively define me in any way. Thank you.


Thank you Eunice for standing up and speaking so honestly and candidly on a subject that creates so much division. I too, had an abortion many years ago and was filled with guilt and remorse, which I can only say was so destructive to do that to myself. I have also kept this secret which was another load to bear and is a constant diminishment of who I am as a person and as a woman. What you have written is a healing balm for anyone that has been through a similar situation.
23 Apr

Mankind and Medicine - are we truly evolving?..

This blog was first published under KevinMD as Technology in health care: Is medicine really evolving? 

Evolution is part of life, something we accept as a fact and evidenced by the changes we see and know compared to hundreds of years ago. No one can dispute the great technological advances that have been made – transport has been revolutionized from the animal power of horse and cart to the mechanized systems of train, plane and automobile we have today.

Communication systems once reliant upon the written word and postal service are today instant through email, telephone, skype, and facetime. Radio, television, computers, tablets, ipads and iphones are all instant sources of information and entertainment. We can ask Mr Google any question on earth and get an answer – of sorts – from how to cook potatoes, the best way to get from New York to Dublin and how to treat piles or colon cancer and everything else in between and beyond. And of course, man can literally fly to the moon…surely all evidence of the fact we have evolved and are continuing to evolve?

Medicine has also been transformed and is considered to have evolved significantly since the days of blood letting and releasing of evil humors. We now have the most in-depth knowledge ever regarding anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, pathology, microbiology, pharmacology, anesthesia, surgery and I could go on…we know more and more about each and every part of the organs that make up the whole human being. So much so, that we have specialists, physicians and surgeons, for virtually every organ and system.

Yet…despite all these great advances, we seem to be getting sicker!

Obesity, diabetes and mental ill health to name a few are all increasing and each one alone could cripple the health economies in years to come. Certain cancer incidences are rising – with a 1 in 3 risk of each of us getting cancer in our lifetime. This isn’t just due to people living longer thus getting more diseases – people are also getting sicker at a younger age with increasing numbers of people having multiple conditions or multi-morbidity.

We champion living longer as evidence of our progression and our evolution, but what is the quality of that living longer? Is it really progress to spend the last 10 or 20 years of life medicated up to the eyeballs, or perhaps in a nursing home, doubly incontinent and not knowing who you are or who anyone else is either? We celebrate and prioritize longevity over quality – but which would you prefer? With a few exceptions, we do not seem to have mastered longevity with quality to date.

Taking everything into consideration, we would have to say that if we were to use the human body as a marker of evolution – we are not winning. Indeed, perhaps it could be said we are involving, not evolving. Surely, with the most advanced healthcare systems, technology and knowledge about the functioning of the human body ever to grace planet earth, the rates of illness and disease should, if anything, be decreasing not increasing? Would that not be a more true marker or indicator of evolution and progress than flying to the moon or the megabite capacity of our computers or the speed we can fly across the world or download to our computers?

Of course, let us not stop at the health of the human body, but what about the health of human relationships? What do the rates of wars, violence, terrorist activity, rape, paedophilia, murder, domestic violence, child abuse, corruption, fraud, financial impropriety, workplace bullying, harassment, emotional disharmony, relational stress, family discord and more tell us about whether we are evolving or involving?  You decide.

Whilst this is not to decry technological advances, is it possible we champion the tallest skyscraper, the fastest computer, the smallest camera, the fastest plane, the heart bypass machine and the myriad of technological advances in order to not stop and feel the extent of the worldwide violence, abuse and devastation of man fighting against man, whether that is due to a war of countries or a war in the workplace or the home; to not stop and feel the levels of rot in our own bodies as we abuse them with overeating, alcohol, drugs, junk food, stimulant drinks, excess sugar, toxic thoughts, emotions and more.

If we are to use man’s inhumanity to man, including our relationship with ourselves, as a marker of progress and evolution, then we have surely failed that test also. Is it really progress to go from a weapon that kills one by one, to one that can wipe out hundreds or thousands in a single blow? The relationship with ourselves is the foundation of the relationship we have with everyone and everything else including our bodies – so again the rates of illness and disease tell us that we are not as evolved as we like to think we are.

Can we truly say medicine has evolved and progressed when it continues to treat the many parts as parts, without consideration to the whole being those parts belong too? Plato said it over 2000 years ago – “the part can never be well unless the whole is well” and whilst medicine is very good at the medicine of parts, it seems to have forgotten about the whole. For true progress and evolution to occur in medicine and amongst mankind we must resurrect the whole human being, for it is only by knowing and understanding the whole can we truly know why the parts become unwell or diseased.

This means understanding not just the body-mind as medicine tends to focus on, but all dimensions – body, mind, heart, spirit and soul, or the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual realms. We cannot hope to have a medicine that truly heals, evolves and progresses mankind as long as we continue with the fragmented medicine of parts that ignores the whole those parts belong to. And the most fundamental understanding of the whole human being we need to have and which modern medicine ignores completely and considers a taboo and unscientific even to mention, is that the essence of every human being is love.

How unnatural is it then for us to be terrorizing, bombing, shooting, abusing, dehumanizing, arguing, judging, fighting, gossiping, demeaning, bullying or behaving in any way that is unloving towards ourselves and each other? This includes all the ways we harm ourselves and our bodies through our negative self-critique, our judgments, our self-loathing and all the abusive and toxic ways we treat our body with drink, food, emotions, hard ways of living, moving and exercising, being tough and aggressive and much more…when in fact our bodies love to be treated with tender, loving care in all ways.

Imagine, or consider, perhaps even contemplate and ponder, how different the world and the rates of illness and disease might be if we had made the same progress in the depth of love, care, nurturing, kindness, gentleness, appreciation, regard, respect for ourselves, our bodies and each other as we have made with technology over the last 100 years?

Medicine of parts

I love your article Eunice. "Medicine of parts" is a spot-on phrase. Recently I have been offered removal of all my pelvic lymph nodes and some abdominal ones - as part of "gold standard" cancer treatment. When I queried the possibility of lymphedema, I was told it is one in four and the consultant seemed to be dismissive of it as though it is an irrelevancy. It may be a risk that he is prepared to take - on my behalf. I am not sure I am willing to risk that. It is difficult but I am trying to keep an open mind on the way forward. My choice will definitely be for quality of life and not quantity. I am not sick because I have cancer. I have cancer because I am sick. It is time to change how I am living. It is waking me up and that is definitely a good thing.

Eunice, you have exposed this

Eunice, you have exposed this so clearly - how can we champion the latest iPhone yet live in such disregard of ourselves and our fellow humans? Ignoring what we don't like to see and feel leaves us stuck, going nowhere except around and around the sun.

Mankind & Medicine - are we truly evolving

From the evidence you present Eunice, and from what I have observed, most people are indeed not evolving, and our systems do not support evolution, be they health systems, educational systems or political systems. In fact systems are a reflection of how we are living, so it is clear that we are not living well. It really does come down to each and every one of us to take stock of the measure of disregard and dysfunction around us, whether we live in an impoverished country where people struggle to survive or an affluent country where we are dying from obesity related illness, mental and emotional dis-ease, and other excesses. Clearly to truly arise from this downward spiral we must stand together to honestly address this problem. Hats off to Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine for doing just that, and thank you for starting this much needed conversation Eunice.
26 Mar

The Way we are Living is Killing Us. ..

This blog was first published on KevinMD 

It is a common experience to feel that our body has let us down when we get sick. We may feel it is broken or flawed in some way and if only it was better designed we wouldn’t have to suffer illness and disease. Likewise, we tend to consider illness and disease as something bad that has happened to us and which we associate with suffering of some kind, be it physical, psychological, emotional or spiritual. This mindset or view of illness and disease is one that is deeply embedded in the biomedical model of illness and disease, a model which sees the patient as a victim of circumstances beyond their control, who is reliant and dependent upon the doctor and the medical profession to fix them.

Even though this model is well out-dated and has been replaced by newer models that place increasing responsibility at the feet of the individual for why they have what they have, it remains deeply engrained in the psyche of patients and doctors alike. Patients still come looking to be fixed, demanding to be cured or healed or that ‘something must be done’, whilst refusing to make any changes themselves or to accept any responsibility for why they have what they have. Doctors still play the role of the patriarchal ‘all knowing’ doctor, who is there to fix, mend, repair or replace without truly understanding what it takes to heal.

We examine, investigate, diagnose, prescribe medications, perform operations, administer treatments of one kind or another, all of which serve to alleviate symptoms without actually addressing the fundamental root cause of the condition. Avoiding the latter means we are just performing band-aid medicine, a temporary fix, a solution of sorts, improving function for a while perhaps, but underneath the same rot continues and just leads to another condition elsewhere in the body, that we then attempt to fix, mend, medicate, replace or repair, again without addressing the foundational ill. And so the cycle continues – the multi-symptomatic patient is now commonplace, as nowhere along the line has anyone stopped to address the root ill.

The ever-increasing number of conditions associated with lifestyle choices or which are called ‘lifestyle diseases’ tells us very clearly that the way we live every day is important, the choices we make matter, that we are in fact responsible for the quality of our own health. The WHO has stated that non-communicable diseases are the leading causes of death globally and that they are unequivocally largely preventable by changing lifestyle, in particular, diet, exercise, alcohol and smoking. 

Lifestyle encompasses much more than those four components – it is in fact about every choice we make in our daily lives including, for example, how we are emotionally. Over 90% of heart disease is likewise due to lifestyle choices and therefore preventable. Increasingly more and more evidence is accruing that shows the role of lifestyle in many conditions – from arthritis to diabetes to cancer, depression and many more.

How much evidence do we need before we stop and consider what is actually going on?

How much evidence do we need before we stop and begin to take responsibility for the way we are living, rather than continuing to poison our bodies and hope the medical system can put us right?

The way we are living is killing us – it may take many years – but nonetheless it is killing us. Whether it is from heart disease, diabetes, lung conditions or cancer – the buck starts and stops with us, and the way that we are living every day.

Consider the possibility that illness and disease is the body’s way of getting rid of all that we have accumulated through literally poisoning our bodies with the way we have been living. It offers us a chance to clear and heal what we have done to ourselves, and an opportunity to become more aware of our choices, and the consequences of them.

Furthermore, what if instead of seeing illness and disease as something bad, we saw it as the body’s way of bringing us to a stop, saying “please stop what you are doing to me, please change the way you are treating me, please change the way you are living, please stop putting food, drink, drugs, toxic emotions, critical thoughts and more into me that are harming for me, please be gentle with me, please look after me, please listen to me.”

Would these understandings transform our relationship with illness and disease?  Perhaps instead of seeing illness and disease as something to be gotten through or gotten over so we can return to our ‘normal’ lives, we would see it as a message that the way we are living is literally hurting, harming and eventually killing us. We then have the fantastic opportunity to change the way we are living, to examine our choices and to consider just how well am I treating my body – a body that is highly sensitive, delicate and tender and which does respond to lots of tender loving care, from ourselves first and foremost!

Many of us carry beliefs about ourselves that are not true – beliefs like we are not good enough, we are not worthy, not lovable, are bad or flawed in some way – and these beliefs can be hidden deep inside, but they feed into how we feel about ourselves. How we feel about ourselves then feeds into the types of choices we make and behaviours we have – so the better we feel about ourselves, the more care we will take in looking after our bodies, listening and responding to their needs, instead of over-riding those messages or partaking in behaviours that we know and can feel are not good for our bodies.

What we have to all realize is, we are all worthy of the deepest love, care and affection – from ourselves first and foremost! We do not need to achieve it or earn it or work hard for it, but we can start choosing to live it by the daily choices we make. 

The relationship we have with ourselves is the foundation to true health and wellbeing, as it will feed into every other choice and relationship we have – be that with food, work, sleep or people. It is the bedrock upon which we stand and the degree to which we allow abuse of any kind into our lives and our bodies, or not. And it is this relationship which medicine has failed to address in its approach to illness and disease, thus perpetuating the merry-go-round cycle of band-aid medicine, poly-symptomatic patients, and ever increasing rates of lifestyle related conditions.

The key to healing is founded upon a true relationship with ourselves first and foremost – a relationship that knows there is a part of us that is unaffected by any illness or disease, that remains pure and unspoiled as the day we were born, and which understands that illness and disease itself is a message from our body that we have wandered astray from living in a way that is truly caring and loving for our body, a message that comes not with punishment or blame, but simply the choice to observe and FEEL: What needs to be released, let go of, stopped or changed for me to deepen in love and care for my body?



Yes Eunice, it's one thing to

Yes Eunice, it's one thing to consider the possibility that we have some role to play in the illness that comes our way, but it is a huge shift to truly live and understand it as a blessing. Whilst on the surface this may seem like a denial of the very real physical discomfort we feel, the deeper fact remains, that to carry on existing in a way that is hurting ourselves, as if nothing is wrong is surely a much greater injury than any physical throb or niggle.
08 Mar

The True Power of a Woman ..

I have read a few articles recently about the oppression of women in Ireland; the refusal of the Irish and Northern Irish governments to recognise the right of a woman to have agency over her own body, her reproductive rights and the fundamental right for her to choose whether to allow a pregnancy to proceed or not should she choose to have an abortion. Being pregnant out of wedlock led to young women, in the not so distant past, being detained like prisoners in the Magdalene Laundries – shamed into hiding for partaking in an act that is a natural expression of all human beings.

The fact of the act being committed was revealed in the bulging abdomen of the resulting pregnancy and with no ring on the finger – well clearly a sinful crime had been committed. One that warranted not only locking away from the eyes of the ‘good-living’ people, lest they should be tainted by such a sight, but the enforced removal of those children from their mothers and selling off to the highest bidder – now that is a real crime. Some would call it trafficking – yet it was carried out by the nuns of the Catholic Church, who were supposed to be representatives of the love of God and Christ.

The lack of love, charity and compassion are all too apparent when we stand where we are today and look back – yet it was condoned and supported by prevailing attitudes and beliefs of the day, beliefs that were largely, if not totally, inculcated by the Catholic Church. The Catholic Church, indeed Christianity overall, has a longstanding history of male domination and supremacy with oppression of women that is still active today. ‘Barefoot and pregnant’ was considered the optimum state for Irish women to be in along of course with being ‘chief cook and bottle-washer’ and obedience to the so-called ‘Master of the house’ was expected.Christianity, and the Catholic Church in particular, have an entrenched fear of women and sex, perhaps harking back to Eve – the evil temptress who lured Adam to his fall. Even today in what is supposed to be Modern Britain – a woman is still blamed and shamed should she be molested or raped whilst under the influence of alcohol or if she happened to be wearing a short skirt and is assumed to have been ‘asking for it’, with little responsibility being laid at the feet of the men who commit such crimes.

But why is there this fear of women in the Church? Is it all down to the fear of the evil temptress seducing a man who has no control over himself or his penis? 

What is really going on?

And how have we as women played into the hands of those who would perpetuate this patriarchal domination and supremacy?

What if the key to addressing this domination is not just a case of men piping down, coming to their senses and realizing we are all equal (which is of course needed), but that we as women also need to step-up and reclaim our true power in order to bring true harmony to our relationships?

What if patriarchal domination and male supremacy have been around for sooooo long and are deeply entrenched in many spheres, partly because we have been submissive and given our power away to men? OUCH!

If we subjugate our own needs and what we feel is true in order to please, not rock the boat, to keep the peace, to be accepted, to be seen, to earn a modicum of affection, to be liked and ultimately to be loved and not rejected – then we are also contributing to and partly responsible for the ongoing reign of male domination and supremacy. A BIG OUCH! A sobering thought perhaps – but one that needs to be considered if we are to truly address these issues in a way that is effective and not just produce a knee-jerk emotive response that doesn’t really get to the heart of the matter.

It becomes even more apparent when we consider the many ways that we as women not just subjugate our own needs but accept levels of abuse from some men that are deeply harming and in no way loving. Abuse is abuse – be it physical, mental, emotional or sexual – and none of it is loving or comes from love. Perhaps stating the obvious – but it needs to be said, for how many women stay with and put up with levels of abuse in order to have a partner, a husband, a boyfriend rather than being on their own? How deep is the lack of self-worth that we as women would prefer to stay with someone who abuses us, rather than be in our own loving company?

But perhaps the question is - are we truly loving in our own company? Do we hold ourselves with the same quality of love, care and kindness as we do for those we say we love or are we harder, more critical and judgemental of ourselves than we are to our friends or lovers? Are we truly gentle, tender and nurturing with ourselves, do we value and deeply appreciate all that we bring to the world, honouring our sensitivity, our delicateness and preciousness – a preciousness that is innate in every girl and woman.

Do we ever stop to appreciate just how delicious we are?

What if the Catholic Church fears not the evil temptress but the true power of a woman? It’s not the sexual seductress or the ‘hysterical’ emotional female that they fear but the divine glory of a woman in her true power and, dare I say, a woman who is Godly. Yes indeed, we may hear of Godly men but how often do we hear of Godly women – not the stereotypical humility, poverty and chastity of a submissive nun but a woman who is fully in this world but not of this world and knows it, a woman who embodies the fullness of love that she is and who is truly powerful?

Such a woman does not need approval from the Catholic church or any church or any body of people to live her life the way she feels to, she does not need to be liked or accepted, recognized or identified by anyone, for she lives knowing the truth of who she is, directed by an inner compass that guides her through the paths of life. Be the waters stormy or tranquil, she remains steady, consistent, dispassionate, calm, centered, gracefully gliding through with equanimity to the travails before her or around her. She is not given to emotional outbursts, rage, frustration, jealousy or anger and never does she compare herself detrimentally to another woman. She is attuned to a quality within herself that she knows herself by, a quality of stillness that is loving, joyful and harmonious. Such harmony is reflected in her innate ability to live according to her natural rhythms and cycles, in tune with all of life, yet unimposed upon by the outer tempo and fast pace of human life. She knows that by deeply honouring the sensations and feelings of her own body, that she is connected with all of life and has access to the wisdom of the ages.

She does not need to wear short skirts or sexy clothes to feel sexy – for she owns her innate sexiness – a natural confidence and joy of being who she is in her own body with no desire to be someone else or to be like someone else. She knows her true beauty and that of every other woman comes from within and is not defined by clothes or jewelry or outer accoutrements. That said, she does not hold back in expressing her essence and glory through what she wears, which for some may be short and sexy or bright, bold and dramatic, while for others it may be subdued, romantic, classic or natural. She does not dress to gain attention or to impress but wears the clothes that express who she is, in accordance with her inner knowing of exactly what is needed to be worn that day or evening.

A woman in her true power does not need a partner or children to feel whole and complete – she knows she already is that, and she brings all of her to all that she does including to her partners. An intimate partner for her is not about finding someone to fill the gap or hole of emptiness and the unmet needs but to grow and evolve ever more deeply in and with love with another that is then reflected in her relationships with all. She does not need to be a mother in order to mother – for a woman in her true power holds all equally in the womb of her loving gaze. She has the power of a smile that can melt the hardest of hearts, and her presence and light are felt and seen by all when she enters a room, whether they are aware of it or not.

Her eyes twinkle and sparkle reflecting the light of the stars, but she is not star-struck or hungry for fame. Playful and lighthearted she is a joy to be around. Intelligent and wise she knows more than her years portray, a wisdom borne of lifetimes of choices and lessons learned. She is responsible for her life and her choices, for she knows that how she lives matters, the quality of her choices matter, the way she moves, speaks, thinks, acts – everything matters.  She no longer entertains abuse of herself by herself or anyone else and is willing to call it out that others may know what is abusive and what is love.

She is sassy and sexy, beautiful and divine. 

For this Godly woman is not anointed or ordained by any church or religion in the land but lives from the God-given purity of the love in her own heart. A purity of love that has the capacity to hold the world and all of humanity with love, irrespective of their errant ways, a love that does not need to forgive for it never condemns nor judges. A love that observes all, holds all, heals all and reflects to all that they too are that love.

This is not a utopian ideal or made up caricature of a woman that is ‘too good to be true’ – for the true power of a woman lives in every woman in the land – but we have to live it and claim it and no longer persist with out-dated beliefs and absolute lies that we are not worthy, not loveable, not beautiful or any other denigrating view. An unfolding process, a work in progress for all of us – but it is a work worth progressing and living to the full.

No wonder then the Catholic Church fears such a woman, for it would be exposed as the sham and loveless institution that it is, with no resemblance to the true love of God. A love that knows men and women are equal; that being gay is not an ‘abomination’ but a natural expression and the love between two gay people is just as valid and deep as heterosexual people and ought to be honoured, respected and blessed in the commitment of marriage if it is so chosen; and that women have the right to have agency over their own body and their own lives with no need for guilt or shame should they choose to have an abortion for their own valid reasons. A love that loves and holds all equally so, no matter the story that be told.

Let us not allow more generations to pass where we as women remain submissive, subverting and subjugating our own needs, accepting abuse and loveless relationships and giving away our power to men out of a lack of love for ourselves. Let us own our own part in this dynamic and not sit waiting for men to change or to ‘get it’; we have to do our part and claim our true power, live and express from the innate stillness of love that lives within us all; for it might just be that when we claim our true deliciousness and preciousness, it allows men to claim their true tenderness and sensitivity and be the true gentle-men they innately are.

Now that’s a true win-win.


Addendum: If there is no true equality, then there is no true love - and is one reason why I say the institution of the Catholic church is loveless - as it is clear there is no equality in their all male hierarchical structure. This does NOT refer to the many loving and caring people who subscribe to the Catholic church and should not be read as such. I also fully respect the right of all to follow the religion of their choosing.  

Thank you Eunice

Thank you Eunice - this is such a beautiful and accurate expression of the qualities women actually carry. How far this world is, with its many institutions and systems, that do not allow and foster this very natural Divine expression. The true evil in this needs to be exposed, and equally we each can bring our awareness more and more to the choices we make that do not allow us to be the power-full women we are.

Wow, what an amazing

Wow, what an amazing description of a woman in her true power - I am inspired!
05 Mar

Breaking the shame and stigma of mental illness..

This blog was first published on KevinMD as "We are human beings before we are doctors". 

Mental illness has long been associated with shame and stigma. Although progress has been made through the efforts of global celebrities like Stephen Fry and many others to de-stigmatize mental illness – many are still ashamed to admit to it and the stigma is far from being annihilated.

Nowhere is this stigma more entrenched than within the Medical profession itself. A fact that should shock us out of our judgmental slumbers and wake us up to ask: What is really going on?

Anxiety and depression are equally prevalent in the medical profession as in the general population and more worryingly, addiction and suicide rates are actually higher than the general population. So there is no doubt that medical professionals are not immune to mental illness – indeed the opposite is true – for it seems that a medical degree is in fact hazardous to one’s mental health; hardly an advertisement for the profession!

It is hypocritical to talk about having compassion for patients who have mental illness when we still hold such stigmatizing views of it within the medical profession. It's as if we think it's ok for the group of human beings we call ‘patients’ to get it, but once we cross the medical threshold we enter a culture where such conditions are not permitted, nor admitted to.

Why is this?

Do we believe that a medical degree should render us immune from such ills?

Is it because we feel we should know better than to get ill?

Do we believe we are some sort of superhuman species, different to ordinary mortals or the group we call ‘patients’, that means we do not get affected by such conditions?

Do we (perhaps arrogantly) think that because we are intelligent we shouldn’t get ill?

Do we fear being perceived as weak, not coping, or perish the thought…. that we have failed in some way?

Doctors are high achievers, often perfectionists, with little tolerance for any element of perceived weakness and a profound allergy to any kind of failure.

Do we feel ashamed because despite our intelligence and our medical degree we have not been able to stave off the onslaught of illness and disease, and in this particular case, mental illness?

Are we in career fear? Concerned that any such admission will automatically compromise our present and future career prospects? Whilst there may be incidences where that is true depending on the severity of the problem – is it our default to assume it will be so and thus negate any other possibility?

Do we perceive a doctor who has been mentally ill to automatically be a less capable or competent doctor as a result?

Is it possible that someone who has recovered from mental illness will have a greater insight to the condition and be more able to relate to patients and provide a more understanding and healing presence than someone who is standing aloof in their ivory tower of perfectionism?

Will those who have come out the other side of mental illness possibly be stronger for the experience, not weaker? It is impossible to generalize for every scenario – but rather than assume the worst, we need to allow the space to consider and allow for the opposite: that healing from mental illness can and does occur and can lead someone to be in a stronger position than they were prior to the experience.

Doctors are just as human as everyone else and we are subject to the same ills everyone else. We are human beings before we are doctors, but this seems to be forgotten after entry into medical school and we become immersed in the medical culture where fear of admitting to any ill is far greater than our levels of acceptance that we too can get ill.

But there is little point in talking about having understanding, acceptance and compassion for patients if we do not have those same qualities for ourselves, or our colleagues, when similarly afflicted. If the stigma and shame associated with these conditions is to be truly dissolved then we need to take the lead, to be open to raising and discussing this within and without the profession and show the world by our example that there is no shame in being ill  (mentally or physically) – but there can indeed be tremendous healing, if we are open to it.

One of the steps involved is abolishing the separation of mental and physical illness and the assumptions that go with them. Just consider how we treat or judge people differently according to the condition they have. For example, observe within yourself the immediate judgments or perceptions that come to mind when you think of someone who has:

1)    Cancer

2)    Diabetes

3)    Heart attack

4)    Depression

5)    Schizophrenia

6)    Anxiety

7)    Alcohol Addiction

8)    Genital warts

9)    HIV infection

10) Obesity

There is this notion that those who have a physical condition are more worthy or deserving of compassion than those with a mental ill health condition, but if it is perceived to be a condition that is in some way self inflicted like a sexually transmitted disease, addiction or obesity, then forget about compassion altogether – ‘you deserve it’ – or so the thinking goes. However, with the increasing recognition of the role of lifestyle in many conditions, the number that are not self inflicted in one way or another is ever diminishing. 

The point is, it is irrelevant whether the condition is physical, mental or considered to be self-inflicted or not – the true response to those who are ill or suffering in any way is to bring understanding, acceptance and compassion. To see the true person behind the condition whatever the condition may be, a person that has a body and mind that are intimately interconnected and interdependent. To see the body and mind and treat them as two separate parts is archaic, unscientific and totally flawed and only perpetuates the stigmatization of those with mental ill health conditions.

Physician Heal Thyself: Before we can offer healing to another we need to heal ourselves, and as long as we continue to stigmatize ourselves and others in the profession who have or have had mental illness, we will never be able to offer true healing to those we treat. If we in any way see ourselves as ‘other’, ‘different’, ‘superior’ or ‘better than’ those we call ‘patients’ then we are setting ourselves up to have our hubris tempered with a fall. It behoves us to address the mis-beliefs that currently pervade the culture of medicine regarding ourselves and illness and disease and it is imperative we find a new narrative – one that is accepting, allowing and healing for all.


I agree, there is a sense of

I agree, there is a sense of omnipotence and an unrealistic expectation of perfection in the medical field. Maybe our job is not more stressful or the work is not harder than other jobs but maybe it is our own isolation in our ivory towers and lack of vulnerability that leads us not to ask for help or admit we are not infallible. Maybe if we accepted that we do feel lonely, afraid and insecure at times we could start to heal. We could start to see ourselves in a more compassionate light and see others in the same way. Maybe, instead of us in here and you out there, we could all be somewhere together.
23 Feb

FIRST Trial in Surgery Explained: Surgeons are NOT human! ..

The FIRST (Flexibility in Duty Hour Requirements for Surgical Trainees)1 trial randomized American surgical residency programs to one of two arms – either to continue with their current standard restricted hours practice of 80 hours per week with time for breaks/rest and a limit to hours of work at any one time, or to have ‘flexible’ hours which involved removing current restrictions on hours worked at any one time and waiving the need for breaks etc., whilst somehow maintaining the same overall 80 hour per week averaged over four weeks. Data was collected via systems and surveys that are already undertaken in the USA to establish if there was any detriment to the patient or the surgeon.

It has often been considered by those outside and inside the profession that surgeons are not human (possibly subhuman or superhuman depending on your experience!) – and now we have it confirmed, as this trial, which included an intervention that impacted human subjects (I am making the assumption here that trainee surgeons are in fact human) – was somehow classified as ‘non-human subjects’ research, thus not subjecting it to a more in-depth review.

How did it get classified as ‘non-human subjects’ research?

A look at the supplementary information shows the box was ticked that claimed it was LIMITED to the use of existing or collected data. Whilst the study team did not collect primary data and other sources were used, it was not solely limited to that. An intervention was applied – an intervention which, whilst it was applied to residency programs, impacted and affected the lives of human subjects and was therefore not limited purely to the collection of data that already existed or was being collected. Calling the intervention a ‘policy change’ that randomised residency programs (not individuals) does not take away from the fact that this research involved an intervention that affected living human subjects. Has the correct box been ticked? Has there been fudging of information so as what is in fact human subjects’ research is somehow classified as not? All very convenient when you have a specific aim and agenda to fulfill with the backing of the American College of Surgeons, the American Board of Surgery and the Accreditation for Graduate Medical Education – I imagine any IRB (Institutional Review Board) would have difficulty contravening the weight of those establishments!

I also question how it is possible to maintain 80 hour week average over 4 weeks for both groups and yet have one group work normal duties plus waive all restrictions on their work hours? Sounds like magic to me – how to make 100 hours of work fit into 80! There is no mention of days off in lieu or how the study arm group limited their overall hours to 80 per week. And what is even more concerning is the statement that ‘monitoring to ensure strict adherence to study arm conditions was not undertaken’ or in other words, ‘we have no idea if the total hours worked in the study arm exceeded 80 or not and we don’t care if it did.’

Even the use of language in this paper is misleading – calling the study arm group the ‘flexible working hours’ group when really there is no flexibility – it is prolongation of hours. Flexible hours implies one can decide to start late or finish early – neither of which are options in this trial.

It is clear that from the inception of this trial that there was a predetermined agenda to find that long hours were not detrimental to patient care or quality of wellbeing for trainees. Using gross measures of outcome like patient mortality is also not an accurate marker as teams of nurses and doctors – not just one trainee – care for patients. More sensitive measures of outcome were not utilised.

It does report that there were subtle differences in wellbeing, with those in the ‘flexible’ hours group reporting negative effects on activities away from the hospital like time with friends and family, extra-curricular activities, research time and rest/health – again suggesting that the 80 hours limit was most likely exceeded or else they would have had the same amount of time outside work.

In addition, they report that the resident survey was conducted half way through the trial, not at the end of the trial, when a bigger discrepancy may have been noted. Surgeons are pretty resilient, they want to work hard and do well for their patients, often to the detriment of their own health and wellbeing, and are used to overriding bodily needs, often priding themselves on their levels of stamina, endurance and ability to go not just the extra mile, but perhaps the extra marathon. But if there are differences at 6 months, what would they be at one year? At 2, 5, 10 years, at 20 or 30 years?

If there are no detrimental effects to long hours of work then why are burn out rates amongst surgeons in the USA around 50%?

This perception of not being human plays out in many ways. We arrogantly believe we can work extremely long hours yet not get affected or have our work or our own health detrimentally affected. I used to be of that view too. Proponents of this trial will say that this is the case and that it has been confirmed or validated by trial, opening the door to abusively long hours of work once more. Yet other humans like airline pilots and lorry drivers are restricted in their hours of work because it has been shown that human error increases with fatigue. So is the answer that surgeons are indeed not human and not subject to the same laws of life as everyone else or is something else going on?

As trainee surgeons, we love what we do and we are happy to spend long hours in theatre or at work, to provide good quality care and to get the experience needed to be a competent surgeon. I get it. I’ve been there, done it, got the tee shirt. And nobody would have convinced me otherwise. I was a strong proponent of such a system. I have experienced both ends of the spectrum – working continuously 24/7 with only 48 hours off somewhere between every two to six weeks, with night after night of sleep deprivation culminating in a cotton wool head where I could hardly string two words together. I remember handing over to my colleagues on a Friday evening at 7pm, when I was going off for 48 hours, and hearing them fall asleep on the end of the line as they continued on duty. One even recounted how he fell asleep whilst assisting, standing up! And we think all of this has no effect on our performance or wellbeing? Come on!

If there are no detrimental effects to long hours of work then why are burn out rates amongst surgeons in the USA around 50%?

It’s not rocket science! Yes, multiple factors contribute to that, but we have basic human needs that, if we override for long enough, will come back to bite us in the bum.

On top of that there is all the research showing the detrimental effects of sleep deprivation and an association with a multitude of conditions like heart disease, diabetes, dementia and more. Our lifestyle is a major determinant of our health and wellbeing – and whilst we may not believe or notice these effects when we are young, they undoubtedly take their toll on the human body over time. This does not mean we cannot work hard, but we have to know how to do that in a way that is not detrimental and that is currently not mainstream knowledge and is certainly not part of surgical training.

I have also worked in a system where hours of work are restricted and I know the frustrations that can come from there being a lack of continuity of care by junior staff. I understand the surgical mindset that laments the days of yore – but those days, at least in the UK, are gone. It is not about returning to those days, but how do we improve our systems, structures and personal levels of wellbeing such that quality of patient care is maintained? I know from personal experience there is much we can do to help ourselves so that we can work hard, play healthy, and not get so detrimentally affected by the work we do. John D Birkmeyer reaches a similar conclusion in his editorial on this trial, that surgical leaders, rather than endeavouring to turn back the clock, should focus on developing safe healthcare systems that ‘do not depend on overworked physicians’.2

And so whilst I fully appreciate the need for continuity of care and high quality surgical training, I also am acutely aware of the need to not abuse trainees in the process or to have them exploited by programs and people who do not care for the wellbeing of the trainee and assume that just because they did it, everyone should do it.  

If we do not care for ourselves, we cannot provide a true quality of care to others – for we cannot give what we do not have. A trainee who is self-caring, alert, vital, vibrant, aware and fully present undoubtedly delivers a quality of care that is superior to one who is tired, exhausted, sleep deprived, falling asleep on duty, and who overrides their own bodily needs. The environment within which we work can be supportive and engendering of such qualities or it can be highly abusive and detrimental to the trainees’ own wellbeing – and trainees in pursuit of their dream job are all too often only too willing to subjugate their own needs for professional progress.

It is common sense that excessively long hours of work are detrimental to our own health and wellbeing and affect performance – it does not even need a trial to tell us this, as our own bodies will do the job if we listen to them honestly. So just for the record – surgeons are human, not superhuman, we have the same bodies made of the same stuff as everyone else, we get just as tired and detrimentally affected by persistently long hours of work devoid of self-care as other professions, we are perhaps just better at denying, ignoring and overriding the fact that we do. 

Unfortunately this trial belongs to the waste paper bin for it is nothing more than a biased, pre-determined, agenda-laden study, undertaken on false pretences of being a non-human subject study designed to permit the ongoing abuse and exploitation of trainee surgeons – who themselves are often so enwrapped in their desire to pursue a surgical career that they do not even recognise when they are being abused or when they are abusing their own bodies.

Having been there myself – I know it only too well.

In the words of Dr Marcia Angell, the former editor in chief of the New England Journal of Medicine, ironically where this study was published:

“It is simply no longer possible to believe much of the clinical research that is published, or to rely on the judgment of trusted physicians or authoritative medical guidelines. I take no pleasure in this conclusion, which I reached slowly and reluctantly over my two decades as an editor of The New England Journal of Medicine.”3



1)    Bilmoria, K., Chung, JW., Hedges, L., et al. (2016). National Cluster Randomized Trial of Duty-Hour Flexibility in Surgical Training. NEJM Feb 2 http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa1515724#t=article

2)    Birkmeyer, JD.,(2016) Surgical Resident Duty-Hour Rules – Weighing the New Evidence. NEJM Feb 2 http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMe1516572

3)    Angell, Marcia (2009) Drug Companies and Doctors: A story of corruption. In the New York Review of Books.



Why are burn out rates amongst surgeons in the USA around 50%?

Interesting article, thank you. I'm not sure I've understood the answer to this question. As a US surgeon trained before, and then just at the start of the work hours reduction, I initially had high hopes for what a sane work schedule might do for my profession. ("What, wait, it's been REDUCED to ONLY 80 hours? ONLY 80? What were they before?" my non-surgical friends asked.) What I've actually observed is that high achieving, young surgery residents do not decrease their sleep deprivation just because their work hours are limited by government intervention. They do what their 30-something peers do - they stay up late on the internet, they go out and look for mates, they spend the whole night in the ER with their sick kids, they do not 'clock out' and go home and take care of themselves. Perhaps what is needed for the 50% of surgeons burning out is serious training in maintaining personal resilience rather than mandating an external limitation.

Eunice that research is

Eunice that research is counter to what commonsense and experience clearly tells us - who has not experienced the fuziness that comes from being overtired, and the poor choices in self-care that are made when one is in a state of exhaustion. The quote by Dr Marica Angell is also very telling - 'research' appears to be used as a sophisticated means of 'justification' in many cases, and without a basis of intent to uncover the truth. Hands up any one who wants to be cared for my a surgeon towards the end of an 80 hour stint without a break!

Revealing Eunice. This makes

Revealing Eunice. This makes a nonsense of 'evidence based research'.
23 Feb

"Liver Transplant Surgeon Addicted to Alcohol"..

This blog was first published on KevinMD as "can we truly heal another if we can't heal ourselves."


“Liver Transplant Surgeon Addicted to Alcohol” – reads like a headline from a tabloid paper selling sensationalism.

How could it be?

How could a liver transplant surgeon, someone who sees up close and personal the devastating effects of alcohol on the body, be addicted to alcohol? Surely the diseased, fibrosed, hard, shrunken cirrhotic livers with dilated and engorged veins that can rupture and bleed catastrophically; the yellow eyes and skin of the patient with end stage liver disease; the muscle wasting, the confused and addled brains in a body unable to clear the toxins; the smell of imminent death – would be enough to get someone to see the error of their ways and cease drinking alcohol excessively? Or so the thinking goes.

It seems the ultimate irony – that someone who is intelligent enough to study medicine and train as a surgeon to know about the body, health, illness and disease, who intimately knows the harm that alcohol wreaks on the body both personally and professionally, who helps others survive the life threatening condition of alcohol-induced end stage liver disease through liver transplantation – finds they are unable to help or extract themselves from the grip of alcohol addiction.

It’s in the realm of the incredible, the ‘hard to believe’ or perhaps even the ridiculous or crazy. Is such a person just weak? Stupid? Irresponsible? Foolhardy?  Incompetent?  Blind? Morally bankrupt? Ethically deficient? Devoid of sense and reason? Or is there more to it?

What is it that drives someone to continue to abuse herself with a substance that she clearly knows and can feel is harming and can see the full detrimental consequences in vivid technicolour detail? If working with patients with end stage liver disease isn’t enough to ‘make someone see sense’, to correct their errant ways and stop drinking excessively, then what on earth would?

It takes a certain level of stamina and a bucket of stubbornness to go to work with a hangover day after day, to put on the face that says, “I’m fine”  – when clearly everything else says otherwise. The professional face of the successful surgeon, who works hard, demands high standards of themselves and others, stays late at work, puts their utmost into the job of caring for patients, but paradoxically is unable to truly care for him or her self.

But can we truly care for another if we are not caring for ourselves?

Can we truly help another to heal if we too have the same ill and are not yet healed ourselves?

Is this a case of the wounded healer who is just as or maybe even more wounded than those they are in the process of healing perhaps?

Those long days of stress and tension, “have I made the right decision,”  “should I do this…or that…?” the worry and fear of getting it wrong, making a mistake, harming a patient or even worse….all seemingly eased by the nocturnal consumption of liquor; blotting out the day, numbing the stress and tension, taking the edge off the worries and fears. Yet it never quite seems to do the trick…and another day dawns and we have to face it all again.

Each day of recurrent poisoning with alcohol adding to the cumulative weight of sorrow, shame and sadness that comes with all the previous days of broken promises – ‘tomorrow I’ll stop’, ‘today is the last day – I promise’...and not living true to ourselves. 

For we know we are slowly but surely killing our self-respect, killing our self worth and ultimately killing ourselves. It saps our energy, our will and motivation, ‘getting through the day’ is just enough – until the call of the thirsty beast reigns once more and any thought of stopping is cast aside along with another chunk of our self-respect.

We did not come into this job to help others heal, only to end up hurting ourselves – something, somewhere has gone wrong. The individual stories and experiences are all unique, the tales told of trauma and suffering vary, but what is true for every person addicted to alcohol – be they a doctor, nurse, liver transplant surgeon, banker, mother, priest, hairdresser, secretary or homeless person – is that they are already hurting inside.

No amount of intelligence, degrees, achievements or accolades can assuage emotional pain – a pain that Medicine has largely ignored, denied and dismissed  ­– just like the addict. It is a pain that is buried, sometimes deeply so, often with feelings of self-hatred, self-loathing or even disgust – feelings that we don’t want to feel and thus choose our numbing vice.

For the addict to heal, the denial must cease, the hurts and traumas admitted and exposed to air, to be felt and dealt with, understood, allowed and accepted, in the knowing that we are not our sadness, our pain, our anger; that any feelings of self-hatred and self-loathing are not who we are; that we are greater than we consider ourselves to be; that we are actually worth loving and caring for, first and foremost by ourselves.

There is an age old saying that ‘love heals’ and in this case it is the only true healer. Coming to know, understand and feel that we all have a loving essence that is unaffected by any trauma, hurt, abuse or wound provides a platform upon which we can feel, deal with and heal our hurts. No hurt, no trauma, no abuse is immune to the healing power of love.

And so like the addict, Medicine too must cease its denial if it is to heal the wounds that currently afflict the profession. Its arrogance has been somewhat humbled, its hubris tempered, for a medical degree does not render us ‘superior’ or ‘better than’ any other person. We have been put on pedestals and we gladly jumped up there too, we enjoyed the ‘Godly’ status, the power, the superiority of knowing more and flaunting our intelligence to feel better than – lest it should be exposed that we actually felt unsure, uncertain, insecure, incomplete, weak, vulnerable, imperfect or not good enough.

But we are just as fallible as every other human being on the planet, we get hurt, wounded and traumatised by the process of life and growing up in a world that has relegated love to the bedsheets, Valentine’s day, romance, a partner, friends & family, chocolate, ice-cream, wine, dogs, or something that is pink and fluffy and definitely not for the serious business of science, medicine and healing. The price of our arrogance and ignorance has already been too high – let us not continue to tread the same well-worn path. The time is ripe for change, for openness, transparency and healing.

How many more suicides will it take? How many more addicted doctors do we need? What level of burnout is required…. before we say ENOUGH!  The fact that doctors have higher levels of suicide and addiction than the general population, that 50% are burnt out, should already be more than enough to call for a radical overhaul and re-think of how we train and work. What will it take to humble the arrogant lens of the scientific mind further, to be open to other ways of understanding human beings, life and illness and disease, to expand our horizons and to reawaken to the truth of the fact that love is the greatest healer of all?

It was love that saved this liver transplant surgeon and healed my addiction to alcohol such that the desire to drink alcohol has been completely annihilated, for the level of regard, respect, love and care for myself and my body means such abuse is no longer entertained. This love, by the way, is an inside job – no partners, dogs, chocolate or pink fluffy clouds required.

Medicine is suppose to be the caring profession – but when it comes to its own, it is punishing and blaming not healing or caring. It likes to think it can keep addicted doctors hidden from view; the culture of fear prevents doctors from speaking up and so the façade that there is ‘no problem here’ is maintained whilst the profession is crumbling to its knees. It is time for medicine to cease punishing people for suffering, and to start being a truly caring profession by first of all caring for those it trains and employs.

It is common for such admissions of addiction by doctors to be accompanied by anonymity, amidst the fear of professional regulation and reputation damage. But we can never heal that which we keep secret within, and that goes for organisations too. 

And so “Liver transplant surgeon heals addiction to alcohol” –  you decide – a story to share to breakdown the myths of addiction, that others may know there is a way out of that prison, or one to keep to myself, hidden from the world, lest I should be punished for bringing the profession into disrepute by ills of the past? Which one is the caring, healing and loving act?

We cannot give what we do not have, so just as we as individuals need to love ourselves to love another, so too does the profession of medicine need to reintegrate love into medical education if we are to engender doctors that can work hard, play healthy and truly assist those seeking healing, by firstly healing ourselves.


thank you for such an

thanks Aidan for your comments and feedback - much appreciated. You are right - the wheels of medicine turn slowly and the culture of medicine even slower! But it is currently being brought to its knees and that perhaps will allow some humility to see a different way. 

"Liver Transplant Surgeon Addicted to Alcohol"..

Hi, Your article states clearly an obvious truth to those who see Love as you and many others do (including myself). It also places an onus on the medical profession to rethink its place in the world. There is a book by Matthew Syed called 'Black Box Thinking' that investigates why some organisations/professions learn readily from their mistakes and others do not. Medicine unfortunately is among those organisations/professions that have a culture that is not open to self-examination or the admission of mistakes. Such organisations/professions are exceptionally difficult to change from within. But one of the necessary prerequisites for change is for enlightened voices within the profession to show leadership and demonstrate how things can be in the future rather than how they have been in the past. You are to be highly commended for taking a much needed and positive stand to show what needs to be done both at a personal level and at an institutional level. Given your own personal difficulties and self-transformation your voice has the true ring of authenticity. Aidan
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